I’m always baffled by people who have misconstrued ideas of themselves and can’t see how they may come off to others in a contradictory way. For example, have you ever met someone who thinks they are cute and funny when in actuality they are self-imposing and abrasive? They might think it’s cute and ok to bashfully interfere on your business or your conversations, but in reality, their unwanted and unasked for advances come off as intrusive and desperate. I feel like there should be a self-reflecting class required for all humans to enroll in where they can look at themselves from the outside and see what others see.
I think I have a pretty good self-awareness. I know that my quietness can be misinterpreted for bitchiness and I know that when I actually am a bitch, people think I’m a bitch, and I’m totally ok with that. I know that I can be controlling, lame and boring, and so frustrated with the masses that I become a cold and heartless robot. The difference is that I know and accept these things. I’m not putting all of this out there, still thinking I’m so charming and adorable, and being destructively aloof to how mean or annoying I may be appearing to others.